Not all feel compelled to write their own vows. Some prefer the timelessness of classic, traditional vows. In traditional vows, you promise to take each other in marriage “come rapture or ruin.” This is a straight-forward promise conveying the unconditional essence of your commitment and needs little more embellishment. Others find contemporary vows online that suit them perfectly. If you wish for a personalized ceremony, though, adapting the role as a creative scribe is probably an ideal way to evince how you feel about your soon-to-be life-long companion.
For those suffering from writer’s block, jot down a few words that come to mind when you think of your spouse-to-be. These can be examples of idiosyncratic ways, attributes, memories, or even what irritates you at times. Then think about what you cherish the most. And why you are grateful for your partner. Finally, put them into some kind of format. Here is one:
I knew I loved you or wanted to spend the rest of my life with you when….I love what makes you unique, such as….You make me feel, or I am thankful for…I promise to try to…Above all, I will….
Here is a sample personal vow:
I appreciate all the ways that make you unique — the way you sing random songs, return the elevator to the floor, invent off-beat recipes, your silly sense of humor, walk the dogs everyday, and you willingness to stand up for injustice. I am also grateful for your gentleness, forgiving nature, patience with me, the warm, protective circle you form around me, and your illogical willingness to kiss me in the morning before I brush my teeth. You inspire me to become a better person. I hope that I can live up to your expectations. I will try to be more flexible, empathetic, sensitive, compassionate, comforting, affectionate, and generous. No matter what may come, I will offer you my unconditional love, care, and devotion.
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