Most *choose* to elope or marry in an intimate wedding. Sadly, due to cowardice and ignorance, some couples must elope. C+N drove from the mid-West to get married here in Queens, NYC. In part, they did choose to come here. Since they are planning a celebration with family and friends in the future, though, I cannot help but wonder the extent to which politics closed some possibilities.
Indeed, it took twenty-six hours and two speeding tickets for C+N to finally arrive within the borders of New York. They enlisted my services, as well as the services of a pro photographer to capture the moment and sign as a witness (these two images are scans from my Autocord prints). They also used a beautiful, classy ring that once belonged to N’s grandmother. So, in spirit if not person, family encircled them.
Anyway, I am happy that most of my trans, gay, and lesbian couples rarely feel the need to even point out to me that theirs will be a “same-sex marriage.” A couple should never feel the need to justify marrying for love. Never, ever. As I’ve written before, for personal and political reasons, I am overjoyed with NYS Marriage Equality legislation.